Pregnancy After Loss is ridiculously hard in every way.
Affirmations can help!
I lost my Gigi in 2016 and now have two kiddos at home. When I was pregnant (both times) I hunted for PAL Affirmations and I found a lot of really nice ones! However, I didn’t feel like they all spoke to me and my personality. Sometimes I need the flowery-nice stuff and other times I just need to scream FUCK from the roof tops. I compiled a list of affirmations/quotes that I’ve found over the course of a few years. I hope some of them speak to you!!!
Soon I’ll be offering graphics for you to download and add your own affirmations. Stay tuned!
HUGS!
Hope filled
This baby deserves joy.
It is okay to feel both joy and grief.
It’s okay to wonder how things could have been and still find hope in what is to come.
It is okay to dream.
It is okay to hope.
Hope is Stronger than Fear.
My baby is alive today and feeling my love all day long.
In this moment, everything is okay.
I am full of optimism and I will let joy find me.
My baby feels my love, my peace, my joy.
Today, I am pregnant. Today, I deserve to be happy.
Body and Self (I am statements)
I am doing the best I can today.
I am pregnant today.
I am stronger than my thoughts.
I am allowed to feel what I feel.
I can do hard things.
I am worthy of this pregnancy.
It is okay to accept help.
I am worthy of help.
I can ask for help.
What happened in the past was not my fault.
My body is doing incredible things every single day to keep me alive.
It is okay to not feel overjoyed all the time.
I deserve happiness.
I trust my instincts.
I am worthy of this pregnancy, this baby, and a beautiful birth.
My scars are symbols of my strength.
Playing nice with others
I will advocate for myself and my baby.
I will communicate what I need to those around me.
I will not hide my feelings to make others comfortable.
I can gently correct people and communicate to them when they are hurtful. (Even if they don’t mean to be hurtful.)
I will assume positive intent in others.
I can and will tell my medical care team what I need to feel safe.
Anxiety(ish)
Take it one moment at a time.
Just breathe.
This is a different pregnancy and will have a different outcome.
I will not obsess over things I cannot control.
In this moment, what are the things I know to be true?
Every day I am one day closer to meeting you.
I can’t control the future, but I can meet its challenges.
This is a different pregnancy, a different baby, a different story, with a different ending. – Lindsey Henke
I will exhale the past and inhale the future.
My doubts are temporary, my courage is permanent.
I have survived 100% of my hardest days.
I will continue to ‘check off’ each appointment and milestone because it is one thing I can control.
Snarky
My body is strong. My desire to be done with this is stronger.
I am a magical fucking unicorn.
I hate everyone.
Where are my meds?
I unfollow all pregnant people on social media.
Crying in public is my norm.
I can’t handle anyone else being happy for me today.
PAL is like running back into a burning building. – C.M.
*Wishes I lived closer to an empty field where I could go to scream/cry regularly.*
*Bites off partner’s head for no reason at all.*
*Searches internet for pregnant voodoo doll.*
Religious
I trust God to keep me and my baby safe.
I was chosen to be a mother, by God and I am deserving of it.
God has planned all the days of my baby’s life already, including this one.
God has given me all the strength I need for this moment.
My body is fearfully and wonderfully made. I was created to do this. Psalm 139:14
I replace fear with faith. My body is strong, and my God is even stronger.
When I reach the end of my strength, I’ve only found the beginning of His.
Don’t give up. The moment I’m ready to quit is the moment a miracle is about to happen.
Affirmation Lists from other sources
From the Pregnancy After Loss online magazine – click here.
From the Stillborn and Still Breathing blog – click here
